Dear Josephine
Please help. I have an on-off boyfriend who only seems to want me to be there when his other relationships fail.
We have been seeing each other from time to time since 2007 and he has always been “the one” for me, but he really hurt me the last time he walked away with an old friend I had introduced him to.
I swore then that I would never allow him to use me again, but he is back in touch saying that he is lonely and I am the only one who “gets him”.
He swears he will never let me down again, but can I take that chance after all the humiliation and misery he has put me through?
Lyla
Mufulira
Dear Lyla
You and I both know that there is only one answer to your question – and that is a resounding no. You have to face the fact that this man is a shameless user with no scruples whatsoever.
He leeches off you whenever he is on his uppers, but is out of the door in a flash as soon as someone new and exciting comes along.
You have to start putting your own mental and physical health first before he is responsible for breaking you completely.
His current situation is not your problem and you cannot allow him to worm his way back into your life again just as you are getting better.
Tell him today that you have moved on, and then ask your friends and family to support you in staying strong.
