IT is two years now since The Eavesdropper’s Ear column started on November , 29, 2014.
I have had a lot of phone calls, text and email messages from the readers who are avid followers of this column commenting and responding to some of the articles in the past two years and I feel that it would be prudent for me to share with you some of the comments and responses I have received and to also briefly recap some of the articles.
Let’s start  with this: Dear Eavesdropper. I want to comment on the column which was presented on 6th February 2016 which was titled When nsalamu is returned.
I want to add the experience I have had. It happened to me too. I was dating this girl whom we shared every support and everything was well and good from the start. Now it happened when I asked if I could reach her parents to which she agreed and we set the date for me and my relatives to reach her parents.
But surprisingly when the date was approaching for  me to reach her parents, I received a message from the girl that I may just look for someone else to marry because she was seeing someone who had just paid more money for nsalamu to her parents and that was the man she was going to marry, and not me and my nsalamu was returned.
Then I decided to move on with my life. I started to look for someone else and I came across another girl whom I have since married. Now the girl whose parents returned my nsalamu back wants me back, yet I am in a marriage already and she is pleading with me that I can also marry her even if it means her being a mai nini (second wife).
I am confused. Where is the man who paid more money for her nsalamu to her parents? Why are her parents not asking her about the man who wanted to marry her instead of me and she is busy calling me to marry her. What should I do?
Bashi Nelly, Ndola.
He was referring to the article where nsalamu was returned to a man who wanted to marry a woman but her parents wanted the other one who paid more money for nsalamu and seemed to be wealthier than the other.
My advice to you Bashi Nelly is to forget about that woman.
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Potipher Tembo, I like your edition in Saturday’s Times of Zambia of 2nd February 2016 titled when nsalamu is returned. Nicolas.
He was responding to the same article.
Thank you Nicolas.
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Mr Potipher, I am so amazed with your article titled Infidelity in marriages. It is true and sad. As for me, this man who is my boss grabbed my wife and threatened to end my job because whenever I visited my wife before our marriage ended, he charged me with absenteeism and withheld my salary. Text me your Airtel line so that I share my source of my sad experience which may lead to the termination of my job over my wife at the hands of my supervisor (name withheld) Chilubi.
The man was responding to an article of 12th December 2015 in which someone was going out with a neighbor’s wife.
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Hi, Potipher. I have enjoyed your story in today’s paper. You are indeed an Eavesdropper. Keep it up man.  I am a fan of your stories.
Jessica, Ndola.
Jessica was commenting on the story  of 23rd January 2016 titled Best friend snatches hubby  which I eavesdropped from some women who were on their way to a maize field in Ndola’s Minsundu area. The women encouraged their daughter to grab a husband of her friend because he showed interest in her.
Thank you, Jessica for being a good fan of the eavesdropper. Keep on reading the column.
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Iwe Potipher, I will send a true story of how two very good friends, a Nsenga man and a Ngoni  man married to two good friends in Minsenga area have been going out with each other’s wife with both men and their wives not knowing.
BBS, Bemba Royal Establishment.
BBS was also contributing after reading the Article Best friend snatches hubby.
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Mr Eavesdropper, text me any number of a sugar mummy, black or white (no name).
The man requested for the numbers after reading an article titled Aunt, niece conspire in adultery dated 28th February 2015 in which the aunt who was an elderly woman was moving with her niece and they worked together in seducing young men.
I do not have any number for sugar mummies.
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Your story is very interesting.
Anyway filachitika. Even here in Chililabombwe one couple has now stayed together for 15 years. Kanshi nakumbi abaikala ifyo ekobaba? (So there is elsewhere former couples stay together like that?) I thought it was only that former couple I know.
Ephraim Chilufya Mulenga, Chililabombwe.
Mr Mulenga was commenting on the article of 6thAugust 2016 headlined When divorcees share a home.
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Mr Tembo, your story dated August, 6,  2016 made very sad reading. So there are former couples who live like that? Let’s just pray for them. Pastor. G.
The Pastor was also commenting to the same story, When divorcees share a home.
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Hi Potipher. I am so much in love with your writing. It really encourages me a lot. I am a writer too and I need your help to boost it up. I want to join you.
Faith, Lusaka.
Thank you, Faith. Keep on reading books, newspapers, magazines, etc ,etc, and you will be boosted.
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Mr Wema is my name. I read your Saturday story where a husband who doesn’t work was chased by his wife. That story is similar to mine and I read it with a broken heart. Thanks Sir. Continue, because I congratulated myself that I am not the only one affected.
Mr Wema was referring to a story dated 15-06-15 in which a man who had lost his job was chased from his wife’s home by the woman and her relatives because he could not provide.
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Good afternoon Sir. I always enjoy your article, Eavesdropper’s Ear, but this one I really enjoyed. It tells of wealth through charms. The man was told not to talk for 24 hours right? Now on this part how he met his girl friend and answered “nshalipo mailo ine. Uwakwebele ni nani?
I laughed I am telling you, njebele Gud, ifintu fyapena. That is how he became mad! Keep up with the same spirit. May the Almighty God give you more knowledge?
Abgail.
Abgail was commenting on the article of 7thNovember 2015 titled Wealth through charm in which a man who was seeking wealth was told by a witch doctor not to speak or answer anyone when spoken to until after 24 hours. But the man misfired when he met his girl friend who asked him why he was not answering the phone and accused him of being with another woman the previous day making it the reason why he did not show up to her. It was because of this that he forgot the instructions and replied and then went mad.
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Good morning Mr Tembo. I am one of the followers of your column in Saturday Times of Zambia and I do enjoy reading it. It really motivates me to read the newspaper.
Sidney Kaluba, Chingola.
He was referring to the story of 2nd July 2016 headlined Dishonest farm workers who were always stealing from the farms of their bosses.
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Mr Potipher Tembo. Are your stories surely true or fiction,like boy impregnates step sister?
Zikomo. Eddie Mbewe.
Mr Mbewe asked this after reading the article dated 2nd April 2016 in which a young man impregnated his step sister – the daughter of the man who married his mother.
Yes, Mr Mbewe, the stories you read on the Eavesdropper’s column are true and not fiction. I write them the way I eavesdrop them.
I end here for now, but please continue sending your comments which I wish to be responding to regularly.
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